Phrases by: Nelly Thomas
Well being Ambassador: Denims Hailes for Ladies’s Well being
I’m a comic. I’ve no enterprise by any means speaking to you about sexual assault. Nevertheless, a wierd factor occurred to me over a decade in the past – the Royal Ladies’s Hospital in Melbourne requested me to assist them with their sex-ed program for teenagers. They stated it wasn’t working as a result of it was a bit too… boring. I labored with them to take the well being messages and jazz them up with some jokes, songs and different stuff. The children lapped it up.
As of late I’m typically requested to go and converse at faculties and well being occasions about intercourse. It’s a wierd calling, however when you concentrate on it most comedy is about “unmentionables” so it is smart. I offered at one such discussion board final 12 months – a well being discussion board for college kids from Leongatha Secondary Faculty placed on by Gippsland Centre Towards Sexual Assault (GCASA). They’d VICPOL SOCIT (Sexual Offences and Baby Abuse Investigative Staff) E Crime specialist there to speak cyber-safety, I used to be there to speak protected intercourse and respect, Tom Harkin from ABC Man Up sequence (2016) to speak help, respect and relationships, and there have been a variety of execs together with GCASA counsellors, a sexual well being nurse and a police officer (who specialises in sexual crimes). It was an enormous success.
The title of this text is supposed to imitate the “click-bait” you typically see within the media about rape. There’s “Opinion Items” (NB: not professional items) on these things being spewed out each day. These articles and blogs vary from suggesting a ban on all entry to the web, to not letting women out previous 7pm to eradicating condoms from Chemist Warehouse. Anybody – and I imply anybody – with any credibility on this discipline, will let you know that whereas these methods could make you really feel higher, they do NOT WORK.
Individuals – girls and boys, women and men – are sexually assaulted each day and, sadly, have been since earlier than the web, earlier than condoms and steadily, throughout the day by somebody they know. There isn’t any correlation to the time of day and rape. Banning condoms doesn’t imply youngsters don’t have intercourse, it means they’ve intercourse with out condoms. Ladies and women sporting all the pieces from bikinis to Burqas are raped, as are boys and males. The horrifying fact is that there isn’t a option to shield our youngsters from sexual assault – the one factor we are able to do is be certain that they know their rights, their tasks and the place they will get assist in the event that they want it.
In brief, all of us should be speaking extra about intercourse.
If younger folks know that they will speak about intercourse, they received’t must study from the Web (the horror!) or the college yard (even worse!).
They may even study what is acceptable and never, what’s respectful and never and most critically, that if they’re sexually assaulted it’s NOT THEIR FAULT and so they can get assist.
Occasions like these GCASA placed on for Leongatha Secondary final 12 months – and which they’re planning to repeat – supply younger folks a wholesome perspective on intercourse: it’s regular, pure and great to have sexual emotions, however you have to additionally know easy methods to behave with kindness and respect. Everybody deserves kindness and respect.
The large banana-penis I convey alongside helps, however the true work is completed within the speaking – the easiest way to guard your youngsters from sexual assault is thru extra speaking.